There is no doubt that prison inmates have done something bad that landed them behind bars. But does that make them animals and less than human? Not at all.

Most prison inmates are ashamed of their offenses and understand they must serve out their sentence terms. But they still remain a part of society with families and relatives that care about them.

D1 and Ameera on Prison Visit Trip to Calipatria State Prison (CDCR)

Families of Offenders Suffer As Much As Offenders Do Behind Bars

To this end, there is no shame in having a loved one in prison.

Almost everyone suffers for the vicarious pain of having a loved one behind bars. Offenders are incarcerated for their offenses, but those on the outside are doing time too. Those on the outside suffer the –

  • Loss of a breadwinner
  • Protection of a provider
  • Stigma of having a loved one behind bars
  • Broken relationships, and
  • Disorganized families.

We Are All Connected One Way or the Other with a Prison Inmate or Ex-Convict

This shows that regardless of being tagged as convicts and inmates, incarcerated persons are still humans with loved ones on the outside. Loved ones who also suffer with them from the outside.

So there is no shame in being a prison loved one. There is no remorse in having a loved one behind bars. And when the final analysis is done, almost everyone is connected one way or the other with a prison inmate or an ex-convict.

A study revealed there are over two million incarcerated persons in the United States. Almost four million others are ex-offenders who are on parole and probation. When you add these together you have six million people who have been incarcerated in prison.

When you consider the fact that these six million offenders have wives, husbands, children, relatives and friends who are directly affected with their incarceration. Then you have over 16 million people affected by the United States’ criminal justice system.

Police Wardens & Attorney Generals Also Have Prison Loved Ones

If you are part of the 16 million people who are affected by the justice system, then there is no point in being ashamed about it. You did not commit any crimes, someone you love did. So you must learn to stand tall to anyone who’d punish you for the crimes committed by a loved one.

You must speak out against the system that would cause you job loss or housing problems on account of the offenses committed by a family member.

Don’t feel unwelcome in any public gathering because of having a family member in prison. After all, district attorneys, police wardens, prison coordinators and attorney-generals also have loved ones in prisons.

Although they may not readily admit to this fact, there is no denying it based on the statistics.

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Charles Omedo

Charles Omedo has a degree in Mass Communication and a PGD in Digital Communication. He worked as a newspaper/magazine reporter and editor for many years. Now, he writes daily news articles for private clients. Charles has written for US/UK/Canadian/Indian clients on various niches. He currently writes for prison loved ones on the Prison Rideshare Network nonprofit blog.